Learn, Miscellaneous, Thoughts & What-not, Time

Things Time has taught me.

1. Growing is far beyond a linear event progressing forward; it is mistakes, reflections, lessons and changes, good and bad.

2. The speed you are living your life is most likely the speed you will always live it… You won’t be “less” busy next month, or next week, or even next year.

3. Advice is so much easier to give than it is to take.

  • Something I try whenever I am about to give is advice is putting myself in their shoes and thinking about what I would do if it were me. I don’t give advice that I wouldn’t follow.

4. When you are working towards something, it WILL get hard and you WILL want to give up – DON’T. There’s a bigger reason you began this journey in the first place than just a relaxing tomorrow, or a weekend out.

5. Change is inevitable, in every aspect of your life – learn to somehow embrace it. Imagine change is the turbulence between your cold, snowy home city and your tropical vacation… it’s rough and scary but well worth it!

6. NOTHING is permanent except death. Everything can be changed, to do what you need to, or what you want to.

7. Everyone is capable of offering their opinion, even when it’s not solicited, but few can offer just their ears to listen.

  • Sometimes, the best advice I’m able to give someone is a listening ear, to let them sort their thoughts out aloud

8. Learn what makes YOU happy, and sad, and mad so you know what your triggers are, and you know how to handle your emotions around others.

9. Happiness is contagious, everybody loves to be around someone that is happy, especially someone that is happy with themselves, they tend to emanate positivity in everything they do.

10. Silence, with others, can be incredibly relaxing, it also develops very strong and comfortable relationships. Learn to appreciate silence, not every moment needs to be filled with chatter. Think about the people you are closest with, if you’re really comfortable with them, you most likely can hang out without having to talk and chat the entire time.. each others’ presence is whats important.

11. The Golden Rule – Treat others as you want to be treated – does not mean you are allowed to be rude or disrespect others because that is how they treated you, it is about you treating others how you want to be treated in return – meaning it must start with you.

Thoughts & What-not

to learn is to grow.

Meeting people from every corner of the world as well as travelling to a new continent has taught me that it is now time for me to sit back and listen. Listen to the people around me, my surroundings, and all the things I’m experiencing. My turn to speak will come again, but it is not right now.

Silence, especially between two or more people often feels awkward, but it’s something I believe we need to learn to be comfortable with. Just being content is sometimes a lovely state of mind that I encourage everyone to embrace once in a while…

Moving to a city with a population of almost double that of the city I previously lived in has taught me to really appreciate my time alone. Appreciation for the peace and quiet that comes with letting your thoughts drift away on a long bus ride, appreciation of being somewhat disconnected from the rest of the world sometimes, or even just walking through the busy streets of Helsinki’s City Center by yourself at any pace you decide.

Years of help from various people has prepared me for this. Anxiety is a dark cloak that can smother you if you do not know how to wear it. I have luckily figured out how to do just that. I’m now able to cope with it at the most important times, like here, when I’m on my own in a foreign country. If Rayelle from a few years ago were here in My place she would never have made it… I’m not sure what she would have done actually… But thanks to the people I love (and a few professionals) equipping me with the most essential coping mechanisms I’ve ever needed, I’m able to deal in pressing times. This keeps me calm, and going with the flow of things. This has been THE major lesson for me, if I can learn to deal with stress and anxiety, than it is possible for anyone to do absolutely anything they set their mind to!